GAD, for those of you who don’t know, is Generalized Anxiety Disorder. It a mental disorder that starts to show itself in the late adolescent years and can make you feel like you’re going crazy depending on the intensity of it (i.e. slight, moderate, severe). Unfortunately for myself, I have a moderate case of GAD, which, when coupled with school work, relationships, future plans, etc., becomes grossly exacerbated.
Just so you understand how deep-running GAD can be, let me take you through a short summary of my everyday thoughts. Most of the time, my GAD is triggered by some sort of worrisome event. I am a Japanese minor and we have to present memorized dialogues every class. So, a public presentation will be this particular example’s trigger. I worry about messing up in front of the class, looking stupid, forgetting my lines, blushing, stuttering, etc. Now, you’re thinking, how is this any different from a little anxiety before public speaking? Good question. In fact, I thought for years that that’s what it was for me – a little nervousness before getting up in front of everyone to present something. It wasn’t until about 3 years ago that I realized something – my anxiety about public speaking goes far beyond the normal worries. I found myself stressing about events that may or may not occur 6 months in advance.
So, with that type of anxiety stuffed into just 2 days time (which is the average length of time between classes) you can imagine the mental strain I undergo. Now, let’s continue.
We have a trigger (public speaking). Now, let’s explore what ensues. I have anxiety through the public speaking part of the class and into the afternoon, affecting how I think about things. I routinely run through a “worry” list in my head.
(1) Worry about the homework due next class, including memorizing another damn dialogue
(2) Worry about what people/the other students thought about my presentation
(3) Worry about what the teacher thought/thinks about me
(4) Worry about being late for lunch
(5) Worry about upsetting one of my friends with my anxious words
(6) Worry about the weather (Cold, snow, rain, etc.)
(7) Worry about forgetting something important
(8) Worry about finding a job
(9) Worry about finding a place to live
(10) Worry about future plans
(11) Worry about my health
(12) Worry about my family
(13) Worry about my boyfriend’s very obvious dislike of me
(14) Worry worry worry worry
Now, you think: Certainly a time frame can be set for these. You can’t worry about these things ALL the time, right? Wrong. I worry about these and much, much more constantly. And the thing is, not only do I worry about the above mentioned topics, but I worry about their sub-topics and their sub-sub-topics.
Let’s examine the instance of my worrying about the weather. I check the weather multiple times a day, especially if a significant weather movement is approaching the area. If it’s cold, I worry about the right clothes I should wear and about being cold – which makes me even more upset because I REALLY hate the cold. I then worry about something happening and me not being to react properly because I’m clothed in 19 layers and can hardly move. I mean, what would I do if someone came onto campus and started shooting everyone up? I wouldn’t be able to run because I’m encased in a giant orb of clothes. After I worry about escaping the imaginary shooter, I worry about hypothermia. It’s not really possible in northwest Arkansas, but you know, I gotta worry about it. I then worry about slipping, falling, being pushed into snow, having snow thrown at me, getting my socks wet, being too cold, wishing I had worn a different jacket/shoes, etc. You get the general gist.
That is ONE topic.
I could go on and on about the multiple catastrophic events that could happen because I didn’t pay attention to the weather or because I didn’t worry about it.
Living with GAD is certainly challenging. I only barely hide the craziness that tries to leak out of me every day. Unfortunately, the mental fatigue which keeps me in a constantly shifting emotional state, has some other negative side effects. Memory loss and speech coherency. When the anxiety becomes overwhelming, especially during times of great stress, my ability to remember and memorize declines. It becomes increasingly difficult to recite dialogues and to remember if I told a friend an important message. When I have reached ultimate mental fatigue, I stop speaking coherently. My words become garbled and intertwined, not like a drunk, mind you, but like someone who is speaking a foreign language and trying desperately to communicate but only managing various syllabus. I think slower and really have to work to appear intelligent, even around my boyfriend.
Here’s one of the worst parts. I can’t tell my friends. My boyfriend is very supportive and works with me often, encouraging me to tell him all of my worries and to just explain to him the directions my thoughts carry me (i.e. the sub-topics, sub-sub-topics). Aside from him, only my roommate has an inkling of my condition. It’s torture. I want to be able to explain to my friends about the thoughts that wildly race through my head, but I can’t because most people would think me crazy.
If you would like to learn more about GAD, please visit one of the following sites:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/generalized_anxiety_disorder.htm
http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx24.htm
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/generalized-anxiety-disorder/DS00502/DSECTION=symptoms